Punishments

I've addressed these words in Terminology, But I'll define them here so you don't have to go hunting for them in case you didn't read through that section. I do recommend you read through Terminology first to understand what certain things mean. "Being late" isn't just being late, it's more ridiculous than it sounds.

LO's: “Learning opportunities” are a form of punishment where you’re given 30 minutes of physical work. Similar to hours, you do whatever the staff tell you to do. Most of the time they’re pointless. It's an ineffective way to help people “stay on track” and “Learn from their mistakes”.

Hour's: A form of punishment where you’re given an hour of physical work. That can include cleaning someone's bathroom mess, staff member’s cars, scrubbing the great hall floors (sometimes with a toothbrush), or fixing up the garden that’s never used. It may not sound bad, but when you're grounded it becomes overwhelming. Especially when you have to do it outside of the scheduled time. 

Grounding: You can get grounded for the dumbest reasons. When you’re grounded, you must sit at the silent table 24/7, do journaling assignments, do “reflections”, miss TV night, do therapeutic focus assignments, miss group activities, miss Shabbat (if applicable), and miss Store. While this is going on, you’re missing time to take care of your rabbit, do your weekend responsibilities, and the advisors treat you like you’ve committed a crime and talk to you like you’re 5 in a patronizing tone. Obviously grounding isn't going to be fun, but if it gets in the way of taking care of an animal assigned to you, I'd say it's a bit much.

Therapeutic Focus: As it says in the packet, you are placed on therapeutic focus to help you focus on having healthy relationships and to increase your awareness about what you do or do not have control over”. During your free time you must sit at the silent table or at the computer to write out your assignments. I was put on therapeutic focus 33 times, and at some point my advisor told me to start making up my own assignments to show them to get approved. The average amount of assignments students receive during their time at NLA are 2-3, but again, it varies depending on how much the staff like you.

Spot Restriction: A spot restriction is where your therapeutic advisor tells you to sit in a certain spot, and you can’t get up without raising your hand and being called. Usually, if you want something, you go to the office window and wait to be summoned into the office, but in this case you must raise your hand and hope another student lets the staff know you need them. A lot of the time they can't see you at your spot from where they are in the office.

Third Person Restriction: A third person restriction is where you must have 2 other people in the conversation just to talk to one person, and those 2 cannot be on orientation. I don’t know why it’s called third person when there’s got to be four, but you shouldn’t question it. You’ll get an LO. It's disrespectful to question an adult.

Touching Restriction: It’s in the name, no touching whatsoever. Someone’s sad and needs a hug? LO. You’re sad and need a hug? LO. Someone fell, so you gave them a hand? LO. You literally trip and bump into someone? LO. Someone hugs you without your say so? L- you get it.

Restriction: There are many kinds of restrictions, but being restricted to a person is different. You can’t talk to them or you get grounded. You can’t talk about them, help them, or even look at them or you get an LO. Most times, if anything happens between you and the student you’re restricted to, you’re put on therapeutic focus. It doesn’t matter if the staff placed you two on the same team, you must pretend the other is nonexistent. For example, me and my restriction were placed on the same raft for the rafting trip (Thanks, Susan), and the teacher wasn't able to get her in the boat and a level 3 rapid was coming up. The teacher asked for help, so I got my restriction up all on my own. Susan saw and gave me an LO for breaking restriction. .... Did you want a lawsuit??

HHC: They say the Healing Hearts Chair is a chair you can go to when you’re feeling emotional and need to check in, but in reality it’s a chair that staff send you to when you break the rules or do something they don't like. You can sit there for as short as 3 minutes or as long as 30. You MAY NOT speak to or acknowledge anyone but staff when you’re sitting at the HHC, and you must wait there until a staff member gets you. If you get up because you need to pee or are looking for a staff member, you get an LO.

LO’s:

1. Late to meetings

2. Not listening

3. Not participating in prayer

4. Eating more than you’re allowed to

5. Not eating as much as they want you to (depending on staff)

6. Not brushing your teeth on time

7. Not brushing your teeth at all

8. Not being out of the shower in 15 mins or less

9. Talking in your room (baby monitors)

10. Breaking spot restriction

11. Going to the bathroom w/o permission

12. Using your bedrooms bathroom instead of the house bathroom

13. Using your bedrooms bathroom because the house bathroom is occupied

14. Filling up your water without permission

15. Being late to meds

16. Not putting your ipod back in the bucket before bed/listening to it overnight

17. Not knowing what meds your taking

18. Drawing on yourselves (as well as on visits)

19. Having "inappropriate hair”

20. Wearing hats or hoods while inside

21. Talking when at the silent table

22. Ignoring certain students

23. Talking to someone on orientation when you’re also on orientation without someone else NOT on orientation/a staff listening in

24. Calling someone by a nickname “Phoebe” to “Phoebs” or “Olivia” to “Liv”

25. Calling someone by another pronoun/asking to be referred to as another pronoun w/o months of planning, parental approval, and most importantly the school’s approval

26. Wearing ripped jeans

27. Missing group

28. Getting off the HHC w/o permission

29. Asking the staff to not put a certain picture of you up

30. Being outside alone without having the “Outside Alone” privilege

31. Going to take care of your rabbit alone when you don’t have the “Barn Alone” Privilege

32. Going to the Music Room when you don’t have the “Music Room” privilege

33. Talking “therapy  talk” during a Kinship Call

34. Writing anything “negative”, “emotional”, or mentioning wanting to go home in the weekly letter to your parents.

35. Not writing the weekly letter to your parents

36. Causing drama

37. Whispering

38. Putting your foot on the bar of the tables in the great hall (it’s not “ladylike”)

39. Putting stickers on yourself

40. Braiding (starting or just finishing) each others hair during the “before school” or “before PE” meetings (depending on the staff)

41. Asking a staff to check in because you’re on the verge of killing yourself at an “inconvenient time”

42. Breaking trust

43. If no one owns up to a clogged toilet (Tampon or feces), everyone gets an LO

44. Not finishing laundry/sheets on time

45. Taking too long running a lap in PE ("stalling")

46. Not taking your rabbit out 3x a week (no matter the circumstances)

47. Spraying the cleaning spray “too much” while smiling makes it look like you’re playing around, so you get an LO for not doing your chores

48. Late out of bed

49. Late into bed

50. Having a “shut down”

51. Taking more than 5 mins in the bathroom is “suspicious”

52. Talking to people when at the computer

53. Not turning the computers in on time at school

54. Listening to an “inappropriate” music station or having your personal music on an iPod that doesn’t follow NLA guidelines

55. Taking something out of the lost and found

56. Not sleeping under the covers

57. Being disruptive past bedtime (Depending on night staff) (Crying counts as disrespect)

58. Drawing anything “dark”, “inappropriate”, or “disrespectful to god”

59. Being in a room with less than 3 other people when on a 3rd person restriction

60. Being in a room alone with your restriction

61. Getting up during mealtime w/o permission

62. Not properly controlling your emotions

63. Talking about what you learned in sex ed even if it’s with another student you went with

64. Not making birthday cards for students and staff (Depending on staff)

65. Not telling staff when you started your period (whether you don’t want to or just forgot)

66. Not consenting to strip searches (Get's to a point where the LO is given to manipulate you into agreeing to the strip search)

67. Talking about sexual orientation

68. Missing assigned days at the “silent table” (time adds up)

69. Not finishing daily journaling assignments

70. No writing bad words (even damn, god, and crap)

71. Giving unwarranted feedback

72. Rejecting unwarranted feedback

73. Rejecting warranted feedback 

74. Drawing in each others notebooks

75. Being distracting during downtime (shuffling cards between solitaire games or crying)

76. Not saying what they wanted you to say to visitors during tours

77. Not having your charm necklace with you during community meetings or group

78. Having extra material in your “happy satchel”

79. Having extra material in your mailbox

80. Not having your journal during Community or Group

81. Talking back

82. Talking during movies or TV shows

83. Not participating during PE

84.  Being distracting during group (silently using fidget toys like slime, stress balls, or sketching in your journal)

Hours:

1. Swearing on purpose

2. Swearing if you fall down the stairs (out of frustration or pain)

3. Swearing by accident (Eg.- "Can you help me sex my rabbit?". Sex counts as swearing even if that's how you say it)

4. When grounded you do HOURS on weekends

5. Breaking 3rd person restriction

6. Someone talks to you when your on a 3rd person (wether you're participating in the conversation or not (depending on staff, some will hear you out others will give you an hour or an LO if you're ignoring the person because it's rude)

7. Using someone on orientation as a 3rd person

8. Breaking touching restriction (hugging, helping someone up, tripping, if someone touches you (wether you're consenting or not)

9. Missing class (even if it's due to having literal hallucinations)

10. Refusing class

11. Unplugging the baby monitor in the bedrooms/closets

Grounded:

1. Going outside without permission

2. Not Listening

3. Refusing school

4. Breaking restriction

5. The person you’re restricted to mentions you

6. Swearing as well as questioning why it was bad

7. If you kiss someone

8. If someone kisses you (with or without consent)

9. Having a panic attack causing you to dissociate and start screaming (out of your control)

10. Sneaking in a book that wasn’t approved

11. Not consenting to a strip search (If LO's don't make you agree)

12. If you cut/hurt yourself

13. If you get into a physical altercation with someone

14. Unplugging the baby monitor in the bedrooms/closets

15. Not participating in LO's or Hour's.

Therapeutic Focus:

1. If you kiss someone

2. If someone kisses you (with or without consent)

3. If you cut/hurt yourself

4. Talking back

5. If you say a mark on your body isn’t self harm and they don’t believe you

6. If you get into a physical altercation with someone

7. If you try to kill yourself

8. If you bring the staff a piece of glass found on Campus, most of them don't believe you because the grounds have been searched, so you’re obviously making them appear out of thin air..

9. Unplugging the baby monitor in the bedrooms/closets

Spot Restriction:

1. Safety watch

2. Going outside without permission

3. If you kiss someone

4. If someone kisses you (with or without consent)

5. If you cut/hurt yourself

6. If you try to kill yourself

7. If you try to run away

3rd Person Restriction:

1. If you kiss someone

2. If someone kisses you (with or without consent)

3. If you’re accused of making sweet sweet love with someone (whether you did or didn’t)

4. If you break restriction

Touching restriction:

1. If you kiss someone

2. If someone kisses you (with or without consent)

3. If you’re accused of making sweet sweet love with someone (whether you did or didn’t)

4. If you seem “too touchy” with someone

5. If you “play footsies”

6. If you get into a physical altercation with someone

Restriction:

1. If you kiss someone

2. If someone kisses you (with or without consent)

3. If you’re accused of making sweet sweet love with someone (whether you did or didn’t)

4. If you seem “too touchy” with someone

5. If the staff deem your friendship with another student “unhealthy” (aka you only talk to ONE person for nearly a month, so obviously your planning something dubious)

6. If you “play footsies”

HHC:

1. Talking back

2. Talking when supposed to be silent

3. “Questioning authority”

4. “Too emotional”

5. Refusing Group Request

6. Asking for clarification on what happened for a group request

7. Interrupting someone when your emotional